And oddly enough, the first person tend to be more honest with his/her feelings than the second person although you still will time to time be affected. This made the second person to be so much further away from you as you do not know what's going on with his/her life. And when you do talk to each other, nothing flows out easily like it used to. So how do you build an immunity for this second person?
And now, you are closer to the first person as you share more - sad and happy things and even discovering things that you don't know about. While, the second person continues to be distancing from you. It's just so unpredictable, right?
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There were once i come across an article by a psychiatrist explaining how human mind works and how they react... very true...
This is ruffly how it means,
Lets says A and B are used to be together,
one day A and B broke up for some of the common reason(at lease its common to other viewer, although i know many people always says their reason is a little different compare to others). So A next partner turn out to be C next time round....
The beginning was usually fine/good/very well(depending), but after sometime A started to realize that C is worse than B or realize B at lease at some point wouldn't have such problem....
and worse thing is C remain far....
Why issit so??
Explanation:
Base on a normal/majority human mind, when a feeling in hurt is a way... they feeling would try to save or at-lease protect itself in a way... and the method is usually would affect the judgement of the normal logic.. so what happen at the moment when A and B break off.. A feel so pain... so usually the next partner A look for would will be very different from B;
Means C is a character that has the good point that is what B is not capable in doing... or at-lease not good..... But if the logic of A is so much affected by the hurt feeling previously it would make thing something worse....
So as usual the beginning of A and C is good... bah blah blah.. and after sometime problem came in.. and hurt both side and so and so.... and then A think back... at the back of the thought .. A realize or would even say at-lease B wold not do thing/handle thing/say thing in this way....
it's because the logic went wrong...
So how A logic went wrong/confuse...???
Human feeling is greedy... more or less it's still born with a certain amount of greediness...
so when A and B started usually A feel and see B have a lot good points and so and so.... A appreciate B so much... after sometime.. these appreciated became normal.. nothing special.. (actually the good point is still there)... yet the bad point at the beginning of the relationship was suppose to be small matter and turn to more serious when you get bored or after a period of time.... so relationship ended... and >
now the feeling of the A and the logic of A would usually easier to accept a new person that *has all the good point which B doesnt have!!! or B is bad for those point.... and usually C is most likely not a very suitable character for A(depending/generally)... so after sometime when C done something wrong you realize B handle those thing better.... its when that time A logic begin to realize the conflict... and if you are smart enough you'll realize that B has actually got a lot of good point... is just after sometime your appreciation got less ....
So the moral of the story is when you choose someone, at-lease dont choose for the sick of choosing or being offer... ask if that is such a person you want to choose to walk with you for a long period of time....
*this theory is sometime not relevant or not close to your case due to different circumstances .. or it could be applied on B or C but not A....
Just a theory.. hope it helps....
* This theory is straightly not useful for relationship that contain double feeling or third party or family problem...
Dylan: Thanks for the theory. It surely looks very applicable for relationships... which I will certainly take note of. Useful I'll say. ;)
Ur theory just proves, appreciate what you have and not look for something else while you already has a gem with you. When u lose that gem, u'll start to miss it.. (i think it goes something along tis line. =)).
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